Umurongo w'Ibyanditswe: Abefeso 5: 22-24.
Intangiriro:
Uruhare rwumugore nuwuzuza kandi ni mugenzi ariko ibi byabayeho gute muburyo bufatika? Niki akora kugirango asohoze umuhamagaro? Usibye umurimo we kuri Nyagasani, umurimo wibanze wumugore ni uwumugabo we. Mugukorera neza umugabo we, aba uwuzuza kandi mugenzi we akeneye. Nubwo bidakunzwe cyangwa byoroshye, iyi minisiteri irashobora kuvugwa mu ijambo "kuyoboka."
Kudasobanukirwa bikikije kuganduka. Abantu benshi batekereza ko kuganduka bireba abagore gusa; cyangwa ko umugore aba imbata y'umugabo we; cyangwa ko agomba gucecekesha umunwa n'impano ziwe; cyangwa ko arutwa n'umugabo we. Nta na kimwe muri ibyo bitekerezo kitari ukuri. Abagabo bagomba kuyoboka (Abefeso 5:21), umugore ntabwo ari imbata yumugabo we (Abefeso 5: 25-28), ntagomba gucecekesha umunwa cyangwa impano ziwe (Imigani 31: 11-31), kandi ntabwo arutwa numugabo we (Abafilipi 2: 3-5; I Petero 3: 7). Umurimo we wo kuganduka ugaragara neza mu isano iri hagati ya Kristo n'Itorero. Nahantu h'icyubahiro no mu murimo, umudendezo wo gukura no gukorera munsi yigitwikiriye Imana.
Ikintu gikunze kwirengagizwa ni uko Ibyanditswe bivuga kuyoboka umugore nk'inshingano ze. Ntahantu na hamwe herekana ko umugabo agomba kumwiyegurira akoresheje imbaraga, manipulation, cyangwa icyaha. Agomba kwitanga ku bushake ku mugabo we nk'Umwami. Abagabo bafite inshingano zo gushishikariza no gushishikariza abagore babo muri kano karere, ariko amaherezo, ahagarara imbere yImana.
Abagore bashobojwe n'Imana gukorera ibyo abagabo babo bakeneye kandi babishaka bayoboka abagabo babo. Ibyanditswe ntabwo byigera bivuga ibi nkigikorwa cyoroshye. Ahubwo, ivuga ibi nkumuhamagaro mwiza buri mugore agomba kwifuza.
Ibibazo by'Isomo:
- Ni mu buhe buryo umugore ashobora gushyigikira ubuyobozi bw'umugabo we, mu mwuka no mu bundi buryo? Imigani 31: 11-12; Abefeso 4: 2; 4:25; Abafilipi 4: 6-13; I Abakorinto 13: 4-8.
- Muganire ku kamaro k'imyitwarire y'umugore ku mugabo we ukurikije I Petero 3: 3-6, Abafilipi 2:14, n'imigani 27:15. Reba kandi Imigani 31: 12,26,28.
- Ni kangahe umugore agomba kujya gushimisha umugabo we? Shakisha amahame yImigani 31: 12,16,20-21,23,25,27.
- Muganire ku magambo akurikira yerekeranye no kuganduka k'umugore.
- Kwiyegurira ni ukuzura kandi kwagutse-Abefeso 5:24.
- Kuganduka ni Umwuka-Abefeso 5:22; Abakolosayi 3: 17-18.
- Kwiyegurira bifite imipaka-Ibyakozwe 5:29.
- Kuganduka ni itegeko-1 Petero 3:1. Reba kandi muri Luka 2:51. Icyitonderwa: Bill Gothard avuga ko kuganduka k'umugore ari "ubwisanzure bwo guhanga udushya munsi y'ububasha bwashyizweho n'Imana."
- Kubera ko umugore ategetswe by’umwihariko kubaha umugabo we no kumugandukira, ese ni ibintu byumvikana kwemeza ko iki gishobora kuba ikibazo gikomeye ku bagore benshi? Abefeso 5:22-24; 1 Petero 3:6.
Icyitonderwa: Ibyanditswe byemeza ko iki ari ikibazo cyihariye ku bagore. Itangiriro 3:16 hagira hati, "... kandi irari ryawe rizaba ku mugabo wawe." - Ni ukubera iki kugandukira mu bashakanye bigaragara nabi muri iki gihe, cyane cyane ko ari kimwe mu bintu by'ingenzi mu guhindura umugabo utari umukristo? I Petero 3: 1-2; II Timoteyo 3: 1-5.
- Pawulo abwira Timoteyo muri I Timoteyo 5:14 gutoza abagore bakiri bato gukora ibintu bimwe na bimwe. Ese umugore aracyafite inshingano nk'izo muri iki gihe cyacu no mu muco wacu? Ni ayahe mahame uyu murongo wigisha ashobora gukoreshwa muri twe muri iki gihe? Tekereza kuri ibi ukurikije Imigani 31:10-31.
Icyitonderwa: Umugore wese uguma mu rugo akora cyane, cyangwa cyane kurusha undi muntu uwo ari we wese mu kazi. Kandi, umurimo akora n'abana ni ingenzi kurusha akazi kose mu kazi.